#1 – Grief changes who you are FOREVER.
#2 – You never get over your loss. You absorb it and it becomes part of who you are.
#3 – People will give you timeframes – Tell them to stuff their timeframes as nicely as possible)
#4 – Fitness can be a lifeline and lifesaver if you allow it to be. (This is the hardest for me!)
#5 – There is no perfect roadmap that fits all people.
#6 – Some people will leave your life because they can’t handle your pain or how you change. Allow them to go.
#7 – Tell your story – you may empower yourself and others.
#8 – Don’t judge your process. Others may judge you but don’t you dare do it to yourself.
#9 – You can live again after loss. Honor your loved one by living. You are allowed to be happy, full of life, joy and peace and many times all those good things are mixed with touches of pain…welcome to the club. This makes you normal and it makes you a beautiful soul.
#10 Grief is a journey
Love, Mercy, and Grace 
Excellent!! I needed these guidelines years ago. Still do.
Thankfully my counselor helped with most but definitely still need the reminders today!